Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Aspergers: How We Cope With It?

Having Aspergers matters little when we are children. We act without thinking, we do what we want, and we care little for what others think of us. But things change with age. As we grow older we become more conscious of our condition and how it affects us. We also learn the importance of having a stable social life. Yet for someone with Aspergers, maintaining a social life can be a challenge. Aspergers introduces a number of issues. Issues that we have to cope with.

But how can we?

How can you have more than just a couple of friends when you can only relate to a couple of different people? How can we be happy with the prospect of never having a proper social life? How can we look into the future and see it in a positive light?

How can those with Aspergers learn to cope with their condition?

There is no "cure" for Asperger Syndrome. Those who are born with it are stuck with it for the rest of their lives. The best possible treatment for it is therapy or counseling. However, I have gone through therapy before and I know that it does help, but only for a short time. In the end, we Aspies must learn to cope with our condition on our own.

The best possible way to do this is by looking at the benefits that Asperger Syndrome gives us. People who have Aspergers often excel at certain subjects that they find personal enjoyment in, things such as: writing, mathematics, science, engineering, etc. Anybody can tell that some of life's greatest enjoyments come from succeeding at something that you're good at. I've said before that while Aspergers  can be a curse, it can also be a gift. So Aspies should revel in that gift and use it to make their way through life.

Learning to cope with Aspergers can also be achieved by being helped from others. As an Aspie, nearly every conversation I participate in, every moment of socializing that I experience, is special to me. I look back at them with pride and feel good knowing that I am at least capable of connecting with others on a certain level. For us Aspies, it means a lot to know that, despite our condition, we are not outside of social interaction. And it means even more to know that there are people out there who understand who we are and what we go through. So for all you people out there who take pleasure in helping out a fellow human being, if you know someone who has Aspergers, please do what you can to make them know that they are part of their society to, no matter how socially withdrawn they may seem.

I'm not asking you to feel sorry for us, but I am asking you to understand us.

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